I've been practicing my Mrs. Degree skills since forever.
Some of this summer included.
And while contemplating today after a huge meltdown and many hours of kids annoying me,
I realized I have learned a few life lessons as well as skills to take into my Future Trophy Wife career.
So I present you..
6 Things Babysitting Has Taught Me
1. I need to start standing up for myself more.
Without going into too many details, this week has been a challenging one.
And while I have people to run and receive advice from about my situations I faced,
They all seemed to answer the same way...
"You need to stand up for yourself and get what you deserve."
I've always been one to just let people take advantage of me.
And even though I try to think I'm not like that, I fully know that I do.
And it's something ugly about myself that I would like to change.
2. I need to be more willing to take control.
I understand that when I'm babysitting, I'm the boss.
But the kids definitely don't see it that way.
I believe this one kind of mixes into standing up for myself more,
but it's also about me being more in control and better handling situations.
There are times when I just let the kids I watch get away with whatever they want to do or say.
I realize that this trend needs to end and I need to speak my mind more.
Not just in Mrs. Degree practicing, but in other aspects of the life, as well.
3. Life isn't about pleasing people.
When you watch more than one child at a time, you're going to have conflict.
Someone isn't going to want the same thing as the other.
And so I give in to make both of them happy, mostly so I don't have to deal with conflict later.
This is basically how I run most of my life and my choices.
To please others, not myself.
I need to start thinking of myself a little bit more I feel.
Not in a self-absorbed way.
In a way where I do something that will make me feel happy,
and not worry about making someone else happy with my decision.
Sometimes, someone is not going to get what they want.
Which leads me to number four on this list.
4. You can't always get what you want.
You just can't.
And that's okay.
But kids don't understand that some times. (At all.)
And this week has made me realize this in more ways than one.
Some times, you just have to accept and be grateful for what you are given.
5. I do not, I repeat DO NOT, want more then 2 kids.
Nope nope nope.
I have decided I cannot deal.
I've never been one to want a large family anyway.
But when you constantly watch 3 boys, all within a year of age..
You realize what you can and cannot handle.
And I do not want to have this as my life.
I know I shouldn't laugh at God's plan if that's the life he has chosen for me,
but this is the path I hope I get to walk down.
And finally..
6. I know how I want to raise my future family.
Whether that means one child or maybe two (I have a few years for that),
I have seen many different styles that parents like to raise their children.
Some I have loved.
And some not so much.
But I use to be scared/nervous for this part of life,
which honestly isn't too far away in the future.
(How freakin' scary is that??)
But I don't think I feel that way about parenting anymore.
I obviously don't know what to expect,
but coming from a girl that never really wanted a family in the first place,
that's a huge step in mentality for me.
So there you have it, the few life lessons being a sitter has taught me.
Now I just need to remind myself to take these lessons with me in whatever I face.
Now that's the real challenge I face.
Until next time,
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